That moment when you’re talking with your guy and you KNOW he’s only kinda half listening, and you see his eyes glaze over, and you know you’ve lost him. Yep, we’re tackling that phenomenon AND you’ll be delighted to know that the solution is super simple.Rare is a woman who has NOT had this experience. When we “lose” our guys in our conversations, we can easily make the mistake of assuming that he doesn’t care, that he’s heartless or clueless, and … we’d be wrong about that. By design, men are instinctively Warriors, Protectors, Providers and Problem Solvers. When we are talking, men are naturally listening for What’s the Point? What’s the Problem? The REAL problem, when women talk the way we are instinctively designed to talk? We girls say WAY too much, we provide FAR too many details, and his Hunter Operating System, his Database is overloaded. He zones out, his eyes cross, his mind wanders. We may get a head nod or an “Uh Huh” but you know and I know…he’s GONE. Here’s WHY and how to fix all that. What he’s listening for: When she’s speaking, and she’s “fine” (not upset) he’s listening for “What’s the POINT” If she’s NOT fine, he’s listening for, “What’s the Problem?” When he sees that this woman he cares about is angry or frustrated – what’s instinctive to him is to PROTECT her by analyzing the problem and by providing solutions to the problem. He’ll naturally want to know what caused the problem and what can he DO about it? She’s important to him and he wants her to be happy, so of course he wants to fix what’s not working for her. And here’s a key question that he’s asking himself – He wants to know, “Will she let me solve the problem, or does she just want to torture me by complaining?” Read more details here: http://blog.julieferman.com/why-his-eyes-glaze-over
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